Dating girls with emotional baggage
He has convinced himself that he is being honest with me. I came to realize he will find another awesome girl and do the same thing to her to fill his void of being alone Lather. Repeat I sent myself in to a six-week black hole, and I will never get those six weeks back.
I always thought of myself as someone who had high self-esteem, but I began questioning why I was upset over someone who shut me out so intensely and quickly.
But it also might be that I have finally reached a place in my life where I can feel thankful and grateful for all the things in my past (as challenging as it may have been at times) and allow them to be things that help me in making better choices as I move forward.
And in return, I can have that same awareness and point of view when it comes to someone I am dating.
“When someone tells you who they are, believe them.” ~Maya Angelou After having been a rebound girl the summer of 2013, I swore I would never get involved with another emotionally unavailable man who had baggage and was a poor communicator.
I thought I was a pro at all of the tell tale signs. He came on very strong in the beginning, telling me he deleted his dating app after our first date, that he turned down other dates because he didn’t want to waste time with other girls, and showed me in more ways than one that I was his priority. Things were at the height of our relationship, and I use this word loosely because it really wasn’t a relationship.
Chances are, he can tell you're hiding something, and we're sure he'd rather hear about it than be stonewalled. You're holding back from commitment., and some of them aren't carrying an ounce of baggage.
The people whose opinions matter are the ones who have actually stood by me through thick and thin.Everyone, especially anyone older than the age of 18 or so, has some sort of emotional baggage.Of course, this looks different for everyone and does not manifest the same in any two people.(No, we condone e-snooping of any kind.)No man (or woman, for that matter) wants to feel as if he's under constant surveillance, especially if he did absolutely nothing to betray your trust. Holding back on emotions, or reliving painful events from the past in ways that affect your present, can keep a relationship stagnant.
So keep your suspicions in check, unless he's done something that's actually worth worrying about. So ask yourself: what have you been keeping from him, and why?This could be anything from a first argument to an insecurity to a trust issue that I just wasn't ready to face.Once I felt this happen, or experienced it happening in the other person, I had one foot out the door and would be running for the hills, either trying to get away from myself or trying to get away from the other person.If someone is truly your soulmate, he or she is going to be around for a long time.